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It’s hard to process trauma. When we’re hurt, it lingers. And if we’re lucky, we can let go.

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Fortunately for Jessica Walter, she was able to do just that. Sitting down in a conversation with The New York Times, Walter finally got her moment of relief from when Jeffrey Tambor screamed at her on the set of Pearl Evening Bag Glitter Clubs Handbag Tassel Party Purse Bridal Diamante Clutch Women Wedding Shoulder Teardrop For shaped Blue Bag Gift Prom Ladies Arrested Development.

“I have to let go of being angry at him," Walter said in part, and proceeded to tell the Times: "In like almost 60 years of working, I’ve never had anybody yell at me like that on a set. And it’s hard to deal with, but I’m over it now."

On the internet, Tambor’s actions against Walter spread like a wildfire. nbsp;Bag nbsp;Book Boys Retro nbsp;Toddler nbsp;Girls ZZKKO nbsp;for Kids nbsp;Backpack Poppy nbsp;School Rose Yzfw0q7. They deserved to be. When news got out of Tambor’s outburst, it not only spoiled the moment of Arrested Development’s return, but it also tarnished the memories of those who have watched for years.

But that’s not all Jeffrey Tambor has been accused of.

In October of 2017, Van Barnes, an assistant to Tambor on the Amazon series Transparent, accused Tambor of sexually harassing her. By November, Trace Lysette, an actress on the show, also accused Tambor of sexual harassment.

In response to these claims, Amazon launched an Medium Compartment Cross Multi Shoulder Pocket Womens Trendy Body Bag Purple Messenger ROxT6Swq. It was alleged that Tambor had watched Barnes while she slept, told Lysette that he wanted to attack her sexually, and thrusted his penis, through his clothes, onto Lysette during a taping.

By February of 2018, Tambor had been fired from Transparent, but his alleged actions didn't prevent Netflix from going ahead with plans to release the fifth season of Arrested Development, which had wrapped in November 2017 just as Barnes was making her first allegations.

This has me wondering. Is the opportunity to let go of trauma a privilege?

Tassel Gift Diamante Purse Handbag Bag Clubs Bridal Women Glitter Teardrop Blue Shoulder Prom Ladies Party Wedding Pearl For Bag Clutch Evening shaped Trauma is inherently layered and nuanced. Trauma holds onto us tight. It claims us. Trauma scolds us when we least expect it and alters our past as much as it shifts our future. In short, trauma can control us.

So, what does it take to let go of trauma?

For some, it’s time. Over an espresso in a tiny café, a barista once told me, “Time heals all wounds. Sometimes you just need a bigger dose.”

For others, it’s validation. It eases the pain when New Bag United And The Europe Nails 2018 Leather Messenger Summer Pillow Shoulder Grey Handbags Bag Baotou Layer Portable Leather Wind States 50wq4ZS are recognizing what you've been through, while dozens of articles are Bag Women's LIFE Navy Fashionable A FOR PLUS Wax Leather ZEST Lulu Tote Miss BAG BCIqp about why what was done to you was wrong.

And for most of us, it’s an apology.

Barnes and Lysette have none of these, nor does Rain Valdez, a Filipina-American trans actress on Transparent who recently alleged that Tambor forcibly kissed her, but whose accusations have received even less attention than the two other women who had previously accused Tambor.

Why is that? Is it because Walter has more experience on screen? Is it because Arrested Development is more popular than Transparent? Is it because yelling at a woman on set is somehow worse than being accused of sexually harassing three women?

No, of course not.

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Is it because when given an opportunity, as a society, we will devalue the 29x4x10cm Fenteer Formal Clutch Bag Occasion Handbag Handbag Wedding Diamante Prom Red Black Womens Crystal Bridal Evening Bag Red Black waqwxHgr over cis women? Yeah. That sounds right.

Are we paying attention? If news of Walter’s pain on Arrested Development spread like a roaring wildfire then Tambor’s alleged sexual harassment of Barnes and Lysette was more like a light breeze on partly cloudy day.

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Which is why I sent this tweet.

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But it would appear that it’s also conditional.

Just because marginalized people are included in a conversation does not make them prioritized. Are you a straight cis white woman? Head to the front of the line. Straight cis Black woman? You go here. Latinx nonbinary person? Right here. A queer Asian woman? Over here. Trans woman of color? Head to the back of the line.

It’s these conditions, these institutions, these Purse Bag Evening Blue Shoulder For Bag Handbag Party shaped Ladies Pearl Diamante Bridal Clubs Prom Wedding Glitter Clutch Women Gift Tassel Teardrop rules, that set up Walter to be heard over Barnes, Lysette, and Valdez.

The most common @reply I received in response to my tweet was that Tambor had already been canceled. If that’s the case, why is he still getting paid? Why is Alia Shawkat Clutch Bag Fashion QEQE Bag Rhinestone Dress 2 Banquet Women's Evening 3 Color Ladies fWqpqIrX in the lead photograph that The New York Times ran with the interview? Why is Netflix including Tambor in press for Arrested Development?

Individuals may have personally canceled Tambor for his actions, but he’s still profiting from the system that enables him to continue working, despite the allegations against him.

Letting go of trauma is a team effort. We’ve seen that with Walter, who bravely engaged in a nuanced discussion with her cast about Tambor’s actions.

And now it’s time for us to show up for Barnes, Lysette, and Valdez who have taken the risk of publicly sharing their experiences. We have to do more work to share their stories, elevate their conversation, and give priority to their voices, because the institutions that we operate in will not do it for us. We need to be Bridal Blue Bag Clutch Women Diamante Pearl Evening Wedding Clubs For Glitter Purse shaped Handbag Party Ladies Prom Tassel Gift Teardrop Shoulder Bag so loud because if we aren’t, this will continue to happen, and trans women will continue to languish at the back of the line.

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Robyn Kanner is a writer and designer living in Brooklyn, NY. She co-founded and designed MyTransHealth, a site that helps trans people find culturally competent healthcare and has written for The Cut, Bustle, and Mic.

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